“Dating: Let’s Talk About Having a Boyfriend or Girlfriend”
1 Corinthians 7
Series: “The Talk: It’s Not ‘Just Sex’”
Pastor Rusty Russell
New Day Christian Church, Port Charlotte, FL
May 18-19, 2019
Video: “I want a boyfriend.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiRlNM_4SH4
A. Series: “The talk,” teaching children about sex and marriage.
1) Main passage: 1 Cor 6-7.
2) Last week: Moms teach children: “Honor God with your body.”
3) This week: Dads teach pre-teens and teens:
“SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE”
B. Most dads miss the mark!
C. Do you want teens to be sexually active? No.
D. You want teens to be self-motivated to save sex for marriage.
E. Your kids need 2 things from Dad to save sex for marriage:
1) A healthy relationship with Dad.
2) Healthy boundaries.
F. Let’s dig into the Scripture and talk about those boundaries.
I. SCRIPTURAL PRINCIPLE:
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.
A. Notice the biblical pattern: When you “fall in love” (Bible calls it “burning with passion”), get married.
1) God made you to be attracted to the opposite sex.
2) That attraction is powerful!
3) Therefore, only allow yourself to be attracted to someone you could marry.
4) When you’re attracted to one another, as soon as possible, get married or separate. (Avoid long dating relationships!)
II. THE RADICAL CONCLUSION FOR TEEN DATING
Don’t date till you’re _____ _________ to get married.
III. THE REASONS
A. To guard against temptation.
B. To embrace God’s gift of singleness.
7 I wish that all of you were as I am. (Paul is single.)
But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs–how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world–how he can please his wife–34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
Rather than restrict your teenagers this frees them to use this season of their lives to grow in their relationship with God, family and others.
C. To prepare for a great marriage.
IV. AN IMPORTANT SIDE ROAD:
WHEN ARE YOU OLD ENOUGH TO MARRY?
[Gen 2:24 NIV] 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
In nearly every culture this happens between the ages of __-__.
A. A success story.
B. God’s grace.
C. The most important reason for sexual purity:
Our commitment to sexual purity reflects the purity and holiness of God.
[Eph 5:25-27 NIV] 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
Jesus is the groom, you are a part of the bride of Christ!
And nobody loves you like Jesus!